Because men need
cuddles too.
Intentional, mindful, non-sexual touch therapy for men who are ready to feel held, seen, and a little less alone in their skin.
“People often don’t realize how men are experiencing a lack of intimacy, and the only place they can get it is through sex. We’ve created a society where men are so scared to be vulnerable with each other, to care for each other, to love each other.”
— Trevor Noah
01 · The Session
What happens
in a session
We start with a conversation. Before anything else, we just talk. You get to ask questions, share what you’re hoping for, and get comfortable with me as a person, not just a service. From there, we do some simple breathing and grounding exercises together, because arriving in your body is its own process and most of us need a little help with it.
Then we cuddle. What that looks like varies from person to person. It might be spooning, sitting side-by-side with an arm around your shoulder, holding hands, a long hug, quiet togetherness, or talking while I hold you. There are nearly 80 recognized cuddle positions, and we’ll find what works for you.
Some sessions feel peaceful and still. Others feel emotional and surprising. Some clients laugh. Some cry. Some fall asleep. All of it is welcome.
02 · Clarity
What does not
happen here
Let’s be direct, because clarity is part of what makes this work.
There is no sex. No sexual touching of any kind. Sessions are non-erotic, non-romantic, and completely platonic. This is not a massage with extras, not a dating service, and not a euphemism for anything else. It is genuinely what it says it is: intentional, mindful, therapeutic touch.
If a sexual request is made at any point, the session ends immediately.
The reason this work is so powerful is precisely because it removes the transactional weight of sex from touch. You get to just receive. There’s nothing you have to do or be or perform to earn it.
03 · Preparation
What to wear
Simple. Comfortable. Clean. That’s the full dress code.
Comfortable clothes
Sweatpants, joggers, a soft t-shirt, pajamas. Loose, easy layers. We stay clothed for the entire session, so wear something you can breathe and relax in.
Freshly showered
Please arrive clean and skip the cologne or heavily scented products. A neutral scent creates the most comfortable sensory environment for us both.
No dress code, no signals
What you wear is not a signal. There is no subtext here. You are not trying to impress anyone. Just wear something you’d put on for a quiet evening at home.
05 · The Right Fit
Who this
is for
This is for you if…
- You’re touch-deprived, whether single, partnered, or somewhere in between
- You’re going through a breakup and feel the absence of daily physical affection
- You travel for work and come home to an empty apartment
- You’re in a relationship but not getting the nurturing touch you need
- You’re single and thriving, but your body still wants to be held sometimes
- You’re dealing with depression, anxiety, loneliness, grief, or PTSD and want a complement to talk therapy
- You have difficulty with intimacy and want a safe, low-stakes space to practice closeness without the expectation of sex
- You’re gay, bisexual, straight, curious, or somewhere the labels don’t quite capture
- You just want a really good cuddle and don’t think you need to justify that to anyone
This is not the right fit if…
- You’re looking for sexual contact or a romantic encounter
- You’re not willing to be honest about your intentions before or during the session
- You’re in active crisis and need clinical mental health intervention. I’m a certified touch therapist, not a licensed psychotherapist, and I want to make sure you get the right level of care
“Trevor helped me find touch and affection again. In our cuddle sessions, I felt loved and accepted without judgment, even if just for the moment. I always left feeling lighter and more content with life.”— George H., Client
06 · Booking
How to
get started
Simple, clear, and entirely at your pace. You don’t have to have it all figured out before you reach out.
Choose your path
Book a free 30-minute consultation to talk it through first, or go straight to scheduling a session. Either works.
Pick your setting
Sessions can take place at my location in Los Angeles, at your home, or in a public setting like a park.
Get your confirmation
You’ll receive a confirmation with the date, time, location details, intake form, and a client agreement.
Just show up
No rehearsing, no preparing, no knowing exactly what you want to say. That’s the whole job. We’ll take it from there.
07 · After Your Session
What happens
after you book
Before your first session, I’ll send over a brief intake form and a client agreement, so we’re both clear on the container we’re stepping into. Reading it is straightforward, and signing it is easy.
On the day of your session, plan to arrive relaxed. Give yourself a few extra minutes to transition out of your day before walking through the door.
After the session, take your time. Don’t rush back into your life if you can help it. Some clients feel lighter and energized. Others feel quiet and a little tender. Both are completely normal responses to receiving real touch and care.
If you have thoughts or questions afterward, you’re always welcome to reach out. I want to know how you’re doing.
Ready when you are
No rush.
Just reach out.
A free 30-minute consultation is the easiest way to start. Ask your questions, get a feel for the work, and decide from there.
trevorjamesla.com · Los Angeles, CA · (213) 588-4242